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LETTER TO THE EDITOR: Reproduce on your letterhead and send to your local newspaper DATE To the Editor When someone we know loses a loved one, sometimes we struggle with how to offer our condolences and let the person in mourning know we care. Maybe we're afraid of saying the wrong thing? What if I make them feel worse rather than better? People who are mourning a loved on do appreciate it when people take the time to send a sympathy note. They'll always remember you took the time to tell them you care, no matter how you say it. Don't be afraid you'll "say the wrong thing" and say nothing at all. Knowing some basic tips can help you make sure your condolence letter brings comfort and strength to those dealing with the death of a loved one. Your letter should have two goals: to offer tribute to the deceased and to be a source of comfort to the survivors. It should be written (by hand) and sent within two weeks after the death. The best letters are conversational, as if you were talking to them in person during a visit. Some things to include: -Acknowledge the loss by name. Let the recipient know how you learned of the death and how you felt when you heard. -Express your sympathy and remind them that they are not alone in feeling sad -Talk about how the deceased touched your life. Perhaps you can include a short story or an aspect of that person that always set him or her apart in your life. -Remind the survivor of their personal strengths that will help them face the future. ----- -Reinforce their ability to cope and that they are loved and valuable. -Offer your help, but be specific. "If there is anything I can do, please call" is too vague for someone to act upon. Think of a specific task that you would like to do, state it clearly, and then follow up to do it! End with a word or phrase of sympathy. "Sincerely" or "fondly" should be replaced with "We are thinking of you" or "You are in our prayers." Good end of life care includes caring for those left behind. You can help, with out any medical training. Take the time to express your love and sympathy to someone who has lost a loved one. Sincerely, NAME
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